Sure, you love her. But do your actions reflect that?
If you didn’t love her, you wouldn’t be with her. But because you may not always have full control of your emotions, you may sometimes not act in ways that reflect your love.
Is your relationship sometimes destructive? Do you always show her the love and respect she deserves?
It doesn’t take much for a healthy, respectful relationship to turn destructive. That isn’t what you want, is it?
Because it’s almost certainly not what she wants. And it’s not what we want for you two, either.
Instead of letting into your anger or hurt, letting your emotions control you, turning your relationship destructive, letting yourself destroy her and her vulnerability she’s so willingly given you, focus on what keeps your relationship strong.
Remember how she looked when you first met. Remember all the ways she is everything you want. Be it her beauty, her wild nature, her sense of humor or her independence, there’s something about her you haven’t found in anyone else.
Love her for her complete self. And let her be herself – beautiful, wild, complete.
And remember that how you treat her affects how she sees herself.
If you love her, don’t destroy her.
Maybe she’s been destroyed before. She doesn’t need that again.
If she’s with you, she’s stepping past her fears and insecurities to do so. She’s giving love another chance – with you.
Don’t let her down.
Instead, live every day as if you are meeting her again for the first time.
Be present. Be with her, emotionally, and not just physically.
Stimulate her whole being – her emotions, her thoughts. Build up her soul.
Maybe your past sufferings have destroyed you.
That isn’t an excuse to simply hand off your emotional baggage and put that on her. Don’t love her simply in the hope she’ll fix you.
And don’t be with her to try and fix her, either.
Instead, accept her for who she is – and she’ll do the same with you – and before long, you’ll both realize you’ve gotten past your previous hurts, that you’ve been reborn as new people, full with each other and your shared love.
Acknowledge that your actions toward her—actions motivated by love, understanding and patience—are what matter, and she’ll do the same for you.
Love her for who she is, with all her flaws and insecurities. She is as imperfect as you are and she only hopes to share that imperfection with you.
If you love her, build her up because she will be doing the same for you. Know that whatever effort you put in, she will be putting in double.
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