By Faridah Nakazibwe
When you see some guys take you out,spend uncontrollably on you, buying you alcohol and food at Java’s, even when its clear his actions show some form of irresponsibility, you overlook it and concentrate only on the food , whether he’s working or not isn’t your concern. You don’t care where he got the cash from. He drives you around town and later end up having sex with you and gives you money and you are happy.
When you get back home you just can’t stop thinking of the fun and the next thing is, you start feeling you are in love, moments later you conclude you just can’t stop thinking of him, which means you are in love.The next day he calls you out & does the same thing, at this point you not only conclude you are in love but now its a relationship, according to you, for him to take you out the second time means you are now dating. ? !!!
Even when its clear the guy is just using you to pass time and satisfy his sexual desires, you just don’t want to believe that’s what he is doing, since you’ve concluded you are now in love. Days later he stops calling, you start feeling bad…telling the whole world your boyfriend/ fiancee no longer calls you. Which boyfriend?
Did I really hear you say boyfriend? At what point did he become your boyfriend? Accidentally you find him with another girl and you conclude men are wicked, all men are dogs or he dumped you for another girl after you’ve done so much for him. Mbu tuvude wala.
You say you did so much, what did you do? Is giving him sex to cure his sexual urge so much you did? Is this how you fall in love? You were only carried away by what you see and the imagination of your heart and did not fall in love. If you are one of these girls/ladies you lack purpose /vision in life. You are lazy and above all you just expressed how unwise you are. Get a life and the ONLY way to get one is to first realize you are foolish and then re-evaluate yourself .
Invest in you two being a wife and husband not boyfriend and girlfriend otherwise you are headed to misery. Make him believe he can do more of family than spending his money on taking you out to go and break your back for him in lodges. Define the relationships you get into and know what you are wasting time on than not knowing what you have.
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