Rema and Kenzo’s relationship has not been an ordinary one. The two people concerned are celebrities who have alot of influence on Ugandans especially our youth. That is why we find ourselves commenting on what would have been entirely personal and private matters.
Since pictures of Rema’s Kukyala came out, many people have teased me both here and inbox on what I have to say. Others are questioning why I opposed Bugingo and Susan Makula’s relationship while at the same time I appear to be supporting Rema and Ssebunya marriage?
We need to distinguish Bugingo and Rema’s cases. One is a legally married man who deserted his wife of 25 years to marry another one and the other is of a young woman who had a boyfriend who was not ready to commit and legalise their relationship.
To me the only mistake that Rema committed was going to stay with Kenzo before he married her officially yet it seems that she believes in official and legal marriage.
I want to tell my dear young girls that once a guy openly tells you that he can’t commit to make your relationship official, be brave enough to leave.
According to the unbreakable Marriage Ministries website,losing a guy who can’t be so sure of you isn’t really a loss. You are only wasting your time building your hope for something that’s going to hurt you in the end.
Don’t ever think that you’re wasting an opportunity by walking away from a guy whose physical appearance melts the coldness inside your heart. Don’t ever assume that you’ll never find someone like him. And don’t ever feel like you’re a fool for discontinuing your association with him.
You are worth more than just a question mark in someone’s life. You are not born to be kept on the waiting list. You are not here to beg for a guy to make you his one and only.
If he can’t commit to you — walk away from him, don’t look back, move somewhere, and have hopes that along the way, you’ll get a man who will not even think twice about considering you as one of the most important persons in his life. You’ll stumble upon a man who’s smart enough to realize that someone like you only comes once in a blue moon. Someone like you is as rare as a person to meet and deserves to be kept safe and protected.
You don’t have to force yourself to be stuck with a guy who doesn’t know if he wants you to be part of his future. You are not obligated to prepare a big speech about why you’re cutting ties with such a man. Society might wish to dictate that you stay in such a relationship but you must remember that this is about you and not them. A legal marriage doesn’t only secure your love and happiness but it determines your stability even when you clock old age.
You can say goodbye to him for good when it’s too obvious that your relationship with him will eventually turn sour, because spending further time with him will only rob you the opportunity of meeting the guy who, without a doubt, will want to be with you until the end of time.
As much as I sympathize with Kenzo, I congratulate Rema for taking a bold and brave move….what remains is for her and Hamza to make their union work. I only advise Rema to get her marriage with Dr.Hamza Ssebunya off the showbiz and paparazzi ladder and this should have started with the Kukyala function and all other marriage ceremonies to follow.
Betty Nambooze is a Member of Parliament for Mukono Municipality.
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